A lot of
times I’ve heard people refer to certain women as high maintenance. I don’t
know if there is a specific definition for what a high maintenance woman is but
usually, the woman in question loves luxury items which go from clothes to
watches to cars. They are also very big on their appearance and spend a lot on
looking good from their hair to toe nails. The assumption is that being in a
relationship with such a woman can be stressful because of the demands on the
partner to join them in living this way.
I won’t go
into too much detail about high maintenance women because that is not why we
are here. I’d rather rant about the less called out high maintenance men. They
are usually not labelled like their female counterparts but I promise you they
exist! I have a few real life examples to share. A friend from university was
dating a guy and soon after, he started complaining about the quality of her
jeans and handbags. To him, a lady should at least be able to get that right.
My friend did not want to embarrass him but she did not receive enough pocket
money to buy a designer bag so this put a lot of stress on her and the
relationship. Of course, this
relationship did not last.
Another
friend who lives in Lagos has been seeing a guy for some time but she doesn’t
own a car. She just started a nice job with opportunities for growth and is
saving towards getting one.
In the meantime, she has to commute using buses and sometimes, keke napeps. Occasionally, she would borrow a parent's car or use taxis for unfamiliar routes or on weekends. When she told the guy how she gets to work he was very upset! “How will that look on me?” he said. He was worried about what his friends would say if they saw her in a BRT.
In the meantime, she has to commute using buses and sometimes, keke napeps. Occasionally, she would borrow a parent's car or use taxis for unfamiliar routes or on weekends. When she told the guy how she gets to work he was very upset! “How will that look on me?” he said. He was worried about what his friends would say if they saw her in a BRT.
In a
different situation, a girl was studying and also saving up to start up a
business at the end of the school year. She kept getting invitations from a guy
she met to go out. This man has a decent income and likes to spend his money
every weekend exploring other towns, dining at restaurants or going for shows. This
is quite an admirable pastime. However, if she must start this business, she
must stick to her budget. This makes the weekend “dates” financially stressful
for her. In addition to that, he also expects that she visits the salon more
regularly than she feels is necessary. After she explains to him what her plans
for the future are and why she cannot live like he does, he laughs
condescendingly and mocks her ambitions. The girl decided that it will be best
to focus on her studies and business.
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